Let me say this gently, but honestly.
I don’t want a love that only shows up when it feels exciting, convenient, or validating.
I want a love that knows what it wants and chooses it—without hesitation, without backups, without games.
Because I’ve seen this pattern far too often.
Someone comes in confident. They say they like you a lot. They tell you you’re beautiful. They make you feel chosen. And for a moment, everything feels real.
Then suddenly… it isn’t.
They pull back.
They overthink.
They talk about “timing,” "distance," “options,” or say they “can’t force feelings.”
And you’re left asking yourself: What changed?
What hurts most isn’t even the rejection.
It’s the contradiction.
Someone insists you’re not ‘just for fun,’ yet treats exclusivity and commitment as optional privileges—while being proud of keeping a list of other sexual options or flirting with past lovers and new women online.
Someone says you matter, yet flirts freely with women who are easily pulled into bed, easily persuaded, easily drawn into the same cycle of lust and indulgence they refuse to confront.
That is not confusion.
That is indulgence.
🪞 “You’re Ugly” …So Why Do You Keep Talking to Me?
Here’s the part that’s almost funny—if it didn’t hurt so much.
You may call me ugly.
You may say I’m too conservative.
You may label me ‘boring,’ ‘too serious,’ or ‘too much,’ even resorting to cursing me—if that makes it easier to excuse your behavior or make yourself feel better.
But then…
Why do you keep talking to me?
Why do you keep annoying me with your games?
Why do you keep comparing me to other women just to make me jealous?
Why do you keep talking about me to other people?
Why do you keep trying to give reasons or make me believe you’re still investing—when you’re not?
If I truly meant nothing, you wouldn’t bother.
Comparison doesn’t come from indifference.
It comes from ego fighting the heart.
🦄 Boundaries Are Not Limitations
Yes, I am conservative.
No, that is not a weakness.
That is discernment.
Some men confuse boundaries with limitation. They think love is measured by access—by how fast a woman can be taken to bed, how easily she can be convinced, how quickly she can be added to a list.
But I refuse to be reduced to that.
I am not like everyone else—and I don’t need to be.
I am not interchangeable.
I am a unicorn 🦄 (hehe)—not mass-produced, not replaceable.
If you’re comparing me to others, it’s not because I lack something.
It’s because I offer something different.
📖 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
— Proverbs 4:23
Guarding my heart doesn’t make me difficult.
It makes me wise.
🌍 Love That Builds Memories, Not Just Moments
I don’t want love that exists only in secret, or behind closed doors.
I want love that builds memories.
Love that creates adventures.
Love that shows up —in laughter, shared experiences, and growth.
I want to travel together—not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.
I want stories, not secrecy.
I want moments I can remember with peace, not regret.
Love should add to life—not empty it.
🔥 No to Jezebel Influence and Weakness to Temptation
Let me be very clear about this.
I do not want a man who is weak to temptation—
a man controlled by lust, attention, and sex addiction.
A man who flirts endlessly, chases women easily led to bed, and feeds indulgence while calling it freedom.
That kind of man is not free.
He is enslaved.
📖 “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.”
— Proverbs 25:28
Strength is not how many women you can attract.
Strength is self-control.
🔥 Lust Disguised as Freedom
Many men today say they want love, but what they really want is freedom without responsibility.
They chase one-night stands, FWB setups, and situationships.
They lead women on with sweet words and no intention.
They leave emotional damage behind and call it “just fun.”
📖 “Flee from sexual immorality… whoever sins sexually sins against their own body.”
— 1 Corinthians 6:18
This lifestyle does not lead to fulfillment.
It leads to emptiness.
⏳ The Cost of Playing With Hearts
Every woman you give hope to without intention carries that wound forward.
Every mixed signal steals time that can never be returned.
📖 “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.”
— Psalm 90:12
Love that keeps someone waiting without clarity is not romantic—it is careless.
And one day, when ego gets tired and the noise fades, regret comes quietly.
🧠 Ego vs. the Heart
Some men don’t lack feelings—they lack courage.
They overthink love until it becomes fear.
Fear becomes anxiety.
Anxiety becomes avoidance.
📖 “There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to destruction.”
— Proverbs 14:12
Love requires bravery—not comparison, not lists, not escape routes.
🎭 When They Rebut, Provoke, and Play Games
When some men feel exposed, they don’t reflect—they rebut.
They provoke jealousy.
They flirt louder.
They mention other women on purpose.
Not because they’ve moved on—but because they want a reaction.
They want to see insecurity.
They want proof that they still affect you.
And yes, sometimes that causes overreaction—not because you’re weak, but because emotional buttons are being pressed intentionally.
But the truth is simple:
Playing games doesn’t make anyone powerful.
It only reveals immaturity.
I don’t need to give anyone a “taste of their own medicine.”
Life already does that—quietly and accurately.
🔐 About Sex, Honesty, and Loyalty
Let me be clear—because assumptions love to speak louder than truth.
Yes, we are human.
Yes, we all have desires.
No one is perfect.
I’m not pretending to be untouchable or unrealistically conservative.
I can give intimacy when I choose—but with one person only.
I don’t divide myself.
I don’t collect bodies.
I don’t play emotional roulette.
When I give myself, I give it with loyalty.
And when that ends, I wait—until someone real comes along.
That is not weakness.
That is self-respect.
📖 “The one who is faithful in little is also faithful in much.”
— Luke 16:10
🌱 When the Bare Minimum Is No Longer Enough
There comes a point when the bare minimum is no longer enough.
Not because I became demanding—but because I became honest.
At the end of the day, I have the final say in what I allow. When self-worth speaks, what is no longer aligned naturally falls away.
That’s not arrogance.
That’s clarity.
I deserve better.
And I don’t care if someone calls that “too confident.”
I’m not asking for excess.
I’m asking for enough.
🤍 Final Reflection
If what you want is only pleasure, be honest and walk away.
Don’t blame the woman you couldn’t meet at her level.
Don’t curse what required discipline you refused to develop.
Wanting seriousness does not make a woman demanding.
Wanting clarity does not make her insecure.
Wanting love that stays does not mean she’s asking for too much.
It means she knows the difference between attention and intention.
✨ Serious love exists.
And we should not settle for anything less. ✨